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Encourage Someone Else By Sharing!

Hey y’all. It’s been a while since I dropped a blog.  During that time, I have been researching, revamping, and resting.  I can not wait to share everything that I have been working on and learning.

At the beginning of the year, The Lord told me to “unlearn”.  It felt like a strange word, but as the year progresses, I’m beginning to understand this Word more and more. 

There are so many ideas that we have been taught in our lives.  We learn from our parents, friends, television, society, and music.  These ideas have grown to become our norms.  

However, just because an idea is normal to us, that does not mean that it is Biblical truth. This led me to this question, “What does the Bible say about love?” What is the truth about love?

Let’s talk about the big “L”. Love! 

Growing up, I saw and experienced so many people’s versions of what love should look and sound like.  

I was told to follow my heart. 

Disney sold me the dream that fairytales are real. 

Society sold me the nightmare that love is conditional.  

Now that God and I are BFF’s, I’ve learned that all these years, I had it all wrong. I did not know the truth about love. 

In the Bahamas, we have so many sayings on love.  

In this blog, I want to run a bulldozer through some of the deceptions we have been fed about love.

1. Love Who Loves You

Don’t worry. I will translate for those of you that are not familiar with Bahamian lingo. Often, people will debate the depth of love that one individual has for another.  This debate is even experienced among couples. 

 Have you ever seen the cheesy couple that says, “I love you. No! I love you more.  No! I love you more. No! I love you most”. While we all may want to gag a little…. that couple is trying to prove or disprove which person loves the other more. 

The saying “Love who loves you” simply means to choose the person that loves you the most.  Do not choose the person that you love most.  

It implies there is security in being loved rather than giving love. 

I’m not insinuating that we should date people that do not love us.  I am, however, challenging the concept that teaches us we should display love, not just romantic love, on conditions. 

Sayings and lessons like these tell us to only connect to someone based on their feelings for us.  We are programmed to display love based on how another human treats us.

God’s Word tells us a different story. It gives us the truth about love.  

But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

Matthew 5:44 

God’s Word is clear that our love for others should not be conditional.  Instead, we should love everyone unconditionally.  Dare I say it, even those that do not deserve it.

Even our “haters”. This can be difficult to do at times. This is especially true when person’s that you love and hold in high regard hurt you.  

Still, there is so much freedom and personal reward when we make hard choices.  The choices that do not feel good, but ultimately develop our character and makes us stronger and better human beings. 

No matter how you feel, no matter how much that person has scarred you, I can guarantee you every time that God’s answer is to love.

2. You Know What You Have, But You Do Not Know What You Are Getting.

If I had a penny for every time I heard this one, I would probably own a bank along the beach somewhere.  

This saying should translate to “Settle because you are afraid”.  Some people get it right the first time.  They meet the love of their life straight out of high school or college.  

They experience this beautiful connection and go on to live out their happily ever after. If this is your story, hooray for you. No for real, I am sincerely happy for you.  

But then others just did not experience this blessing the first time around.  I would often hear persons that are not in the happiest of situations vent about their frustrations in a relationship.  After all of this, they would belt out, “You know what you have, but you do not know what you are getting.”

Once again, I am not just speaking to the romantic element of this saying.  I am challenging the concept that we should sit in fear, all while calling it love.

Honey, God has not given you a spirit of fear.  If fear is stopping you from making the next move in your life, then it’s not from God..period.  

That goes for relationship moves, career moves, friendship moves.  Yes, you may know what you have, but God’s plans are always so much greater.  

Being bound to any love or bondage out of fear of finding is still bondage. 

 Instead…

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.

Proverbs 3: 5-6 

Disclaimer: If you are married, you all better work that thang out. Don’t go home telling your spouse Gilberta said move on to the next. Nuh uh lol!

Well, this blog was a bit longer than I expected, so I will cut right here.  There are so many other incorrect ideas of love that we have been taught. 

 At the end of the day, God is love.  He does not just love people, but that is who He is.  

If you or I want to learn the truth about love, then we have to go to the Originator of love. 

We must seek the Source.  

He will reverse every hurt and pain. He will teach you how to truly give and receive love to everyone. Both saved and unsaved.

It is through God we can experience love in its purest form.

Did I miss any myths or sayings on love that turned out to be entirely against Biblical truths? 

Drop a comment or send an email. I always love to hear from you guys.

As always,

Be Strong, Be Courageous Serve God Wholeheartedly 

Gilberta Thompson