Over my short time on earth, I’ve learned that loss is inevitable. No one actually wins all the time. Well that is unless you are God and you have a whole slew of angels at your command (insert Holy Ghost tongues). There are times we lose what is dear to us. Sometimes it can be a person, other times it can be our faith in a particular situation, or we can even lose ourselves. Those defeats often times lead to emotional trauma that is hard to articulate into words. It’s the kind of pain that gives the illusion that life will never ever get better.
I’ve recently found that even in heartache, pain, and loss, there is beauty. It’s not the kind of beauty that is apparent during the loss. It’s the kind of beauty that is seen when you and I look back. I know it does not feel like it right now. I know you can’t see it through the cloud of what should have been, but if you allow the dust to settle. If you look through your emotional trauma, you will soon realize that there are lessons this experience is teaching you.
In the midst of trauma:
Today, in this very moment, you get to start over. I have never read a book where one chapter ended and there was not another chapter on the horizon, that is, unless the book is over. Last time I checked, every day you breathe, your book is not over. I’ve recently experienced a personal loss that came for everything I thought I knew. It was unexpected and even in that loss I felt like I was losing myself. Then one day, after agonizing for too long, I decided to make it stop. YES! I made the decision.
The fact is neither you nor I can control life. We don’t have that kind of power. What we can control is how we respond to what happens to us. When my response changed, sure enough my emotions started to follow. In that, I strategically planned how to start over and develop a better me. This included every aspect of my life. Spiritually, physically, and emotionally. I am telling you this because I don’t want you to get loss in your trauma. Get back to the drawing board. Think of some ways to reinvent yourself. Spend time with God, get involved in your community, develop your gifts and skills. There is a whole life in front of you. Whatever you do, don’t just sit there and wallow on what was.
Position Yourself to be Found
The beauty of loss is that it places you in the perfect position to be found. If you lost everything you knew, now God can introduce you to what you never knew. To what you could have never imagined. His plans are so much bigger than you could even imagine. (Ephesians 3:20) Without losing the wrong relationships, you cannot be found by the right ones. Had you not encountered loss, you could not help someone else also experiencing loss. If you were never lost, then God could not have found you. Rather than waving your microscope on what was lost, focus on what could be found. Focus on the wonderful blessings that are seeking you out.
Experiencing loss also places you in a position to seek. Whenever we lose something, we are now compelled to look for something. It can be a solution, answers to questions, or peace of mind. Whatever you are seeking, I assure you that your answer is in God. I wish that I could take away the pain of your lost, but Only God can do that. I encourage you to seek Him until you find Him (Matthew 7:7).
Know that there is life after trauma and lost!
As always…..Be strong, Be courageous, Serve God Wholeheartedly!